WORTHACHARM

One thing we often fail to realize is that we are the problem. We can be a toxic person in any of our relationships. You never know how negative you are to others and how you are bringing them down. You also can be the person who is bringing your own self down. We have to know when to check ourselves.

I know the question we often ask ourselves is, why we aren’t moving forward in life, or why isn’t anything happening for us. In reality, we are the reason why our lives aren’t moving forward. Continuing to stay in your comfort zone and not taking risks in life, is one reason why anything is moving forward in your life. You cannot stay in the same place and expect to move. No, you have to leave that place and experience a new part of your life. You never know what you are capable of doing until you are doing it. You have to put in the effort of reaching your goals and dreams. You will not see the process until you start putting in the effort and work.

You are holding yourself back from a new chapter in your life by staying in your comfort zone and fearing change. You have to turn to the NEXT page in your life, no matter how hard the last chapter went. Maybe, you went through so much pain and suffering in the last chapter that you are afraid to turn the page not knowing it could get worse. Maybe, you were in a happy place in your last chapter to where you do not want to move from it. You won’t grow from staying in one chapter, you will eventually have to move forward. No matter how hard it may be to keep pushing, you have to remember that there is more out there in life for you. Try to find the little motivation inside of you to keep going. You are blocking your own blessing by staying in one chapter and not pushing to go forward.

We often become dependent on others. We are steady wanting others to do things for us, instead of trying and working for ourselves. You will not get anywhere by depending on others for your success. You need to get out of the habit of depending on people just because you know they will do anything for you. The time will come when the certain person that you are continuously depending on will let go & leave it up to you, to do things for yourself. Another thing is you can not always depend on a person to keep giving you advice to a dead situation. Eventually, you are going to have to stop depending on them & actually use the advice they have already gave you. Apply it to your life and start making a difference in your life. You have to step up and start making a change in your life on our own.

Start checking yourself. Also, you really have to think about things from other people’s perspectives. You don’t know how inconsiderate you are being when you are always depending on someone else. There are times when we don’t catch ourselves being negative or just being toxic people. Sometimes we are so quick to respond when we should be listening. You need to know everything does not need a reaction, or that you shouldn’t be so quick to respond in anger. Also, you do not have to get the last word all the time, just sit back and listen for once. By listening, there could be a solution to the disagreement or discussion. You need to check yourself and stop playing the victim every time you lose someone in your life (not talking about death) because YOU could be the problem. I know many of us often say, “no one can handle us.” You know SOMETIMES, it’s not because they can’t handle you, it’s just they can’t handle your toxicity. You need to sit down think about the way you treat and talk to people. You need to take responsibility of your actions. Although, this is a vice verse situation because you are not always the problem. BUT you cannot act like you are never in the wrong either.

The thing about life is that we all make mistakes, but we get a second chance everyday to learn from them and fix them. Of course, we all have our flaws, but some things are fixable and you know what they are. You have to make the choice to better yourself.