WORTHACHARM

Self-sabotaging is something we may have all experienced, I know I have. We may be standing in our own way of happiness or limiting our own abilities. Self-sabotaging is something I am still working on all the time. I noticed how much I was standing in my own way of happiness or I how I was limiting myself with certain things out of fear, and I realized that I had to do something about it . This is not something that change overnight, you have to put in the work and take it day by day. There other ways that you may self-sabotaging yourself and you may not know it & it’s by:

• avoiding
• not setting boundaries
• not wanting to see your worth
• continuing to stay in an unhealthy environment
• fear
• quitting every time it gets hard
• holding yourself back
• speaking negativity in your life
• feeling like you don’t deserve happiness or just anything good in your life
• procrastinating
• living in the past
• never taking responsibility of your own actions
• pride

I think once we learn and admit that we are self-sabotaging ourselves, then we have passed the first step. Now, the next step is us having to dig in and finding out what we are avoiding or why we are holding ourselves back. Sometimes all it takes is going for something and stepping out our comfort zone. Or finally realizing we are not going for certain things anymore and finding the strength to leave unhealthy environments and situations. We start setting boundaries for ourselves and the way others have access to us. Sometimes, we may have to change the way we go about things because our old ways may be holding us back from seeing different results or from being happy.

One thing about trying to stop self-sabotaging is you have to want to stop. Many of us are so stuck in it to where it’s not that we don’t want to stop, but we don’t know how to or where to start. For starters, one way I’ll say is it starts with you saying, “Okay, I am done holding myself back” or “I am no longer avoiding this, it is time for me to face it,” and making a commitment. You have to commit to not avoiding or not standing in your way and going for it. I can’t lie and say making a commitment is easy because it’s not. Some days you are going to have to find a little more strength to keep going. And it is okay. It is okay to feel weaker on some days, it is okay to have “one of them days”, it only becomes a problem when you just let it sit and not pick yourself back up. Call on God, call a friend who you know will listen, go for a walk, or just do something to get your mind back active and going. Don’t turn back.

I don’t know what you are avoiding, fearing, or whatever you are struggling with, but just know it can’t be something you cannot handle, and I know this because this is something I had to learn. So, the next time you feel like giving up or stopping before you can even start, just keep going. Because you can do it, even if you don’t get the results you want, you still did it. Now what I’m about to tell you is the one right here, don’t let one bad experience or rejection, stop you from doing anything you want to do because this is definitely something that will hold you back. But we cannot and will not let it stop us. It’s hard, but you have to keep pushing. We are not missing anymore opportunities because of our pride!

You may not even notice how much you are speaking negativity in your life and wonder why bad things are happening to you…because there is power in the tongue. The same energy you use to speak negativity, use it to speak positive things into your life. Yeah, I know it is easier said than done, but it is possible to do if you commit to doing it everyday. You have to know that you are worthy and you don’t deserve to stay in an unhealthy environment. Believe it or not YOU have the power to leave anywhere that you feel like is damaging you. You are in control of your life, so whatever you speak, feel, or do is in your control. Which brings me to my last point, you have to take responsibility of your actions, if you are always speaking negative or complaining, then you can’t expect good things to always happen for you. You cannot blame others for you not being happy because it is your choice to be happy, nobody else’s.

On that note, let’s all commit to working on how to stop self-sabotaging ourselves. Let’s commit to learning how to just go for it even if we are scared. Let’s commit to working on replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. Let’s commit to stop avoiding things and start finding ways to face them. Let’s commit to start taking responsibility of our actions. Let’s commit to not letting fear of rejection or past mistakes and experiences hold us back any longer. Let’s commit to forgiving ourselves. Let’s commit to letting go of our pride! Because we are done self-sabotaging.